Friday, May 1, 2009

The Antidote..Dealing With Bitterness

Bitterness…Is it possible to be bitter? Yes! But note that it actually doesn’t start with bitterness. It starts with hurt.

In many homes, there is comparison between one child and the other(s) and this breeds low-self esteem, the one being criticized feels inferior to the other that is being praised. Hurt starts.

What of the teenagers whose parents are not available to give a listening ear but are too busy with their businesses that all they remember to do daily is to pass down instructions to their children? The children just feel like furniture or some sort of tool in the house.

Maybe you have experienced rape and every time you see or think of the guy who raped you, you feel like going for his throat. There are fathers or step-fathers who regularly have sex with their daughters and these girls don’t have boldness to tell their mothers what they are going through. This hurts badly.

Tinuke was denied success in Maths 102 by her lecturer because she refused to go to bed with him. As a young undergraduate, she still wishes she could cut off her lecturer’s head.
What of situations where our loved ones, those whom we have confided in, betray us and reveal our secrets to our “enemies”.

Did your girl/boy friend jilt you? You did everything together and just when you were thinking everything was settled, the bomb blasted!

Have you had to commit abortion and the thought of it hurts?

You are into drugs. You wish you could get out of it but you are finding it so difficult. You remember the person that introduced you to it and you hate him/her.

When God seems ‘unfair’ and you are getting so discouraged and you want to give up.
The first thing I want you to realize is that bitterness kills. It kills your joy, peace and so may God-given virtues.

As you allow the HURT to grow, it gradually becomes BITTERNESS. Any situation that you have allowed to deteriorate to this stage has obviously been handed over to the devil – John10:10a. But there’s a way out. Please note the following.

ü Admit that you are bitter. If the realization comes on you and you admit it, then the cure has started.

ü Talk to God like you are talking to a friend. Tell Him what happened that led to this bitter feeling. God hears. Be ready to give it up.

ü Ask Him to help you overcome it. You cannot do it by your own strength. The Holy Spirit will definitely comfort your heart.

ü Jesus heals wounds. He is the Balm in Gilead.
Your faith will be needed at this time to believe God for His help.

As a counselor, I will like to say that after God would have healed this hurt, you meditate on Philippians 4:8 continually because the devil, the great liar, would want you to remember what God has delivered you from? But remember, whoever the SON has set free, is free indeed.

Written by Sinmisola Adigun

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